On the radio the other day a man wrote in telling about his plans to play with some money that he and his wife had saved over the past four years. The money was their in vitro fund. You see, the couple had not been able to conceive on their own and this was the next step. The thing about the savings is that it was only about half of what they needed for the first try. Bummer, right? Well the husband's idea was to go to Vegas and put all their money on Red - the wife's favorite color. His thought - if it hits, we are meant to have a child. If it misses, it is not meant to be. Oh and I should mention that the wife was not aware of this plans.
Fate: 1. something that unavoidably befalls a person; fortune; lot. 2. the universal principle or ultimate agency by which the order of things is presumably prescribed; the decreed cause of events; time. 3. that which is inevitably predetermined; destiny. 4. a prophetic declaration of what must be.
I'm not sure how I feel about this thing called fate. "Things happen for a reason" people say. "It's in God's hands" others like to say. To some degree, I agree with this thinking. But when I really think about it, you can call every moment in life 'fate'. Never mind how hard you work at something. Never mind how you orchestrate you life to go 'as planned'. Never mind getting a wild hair in your behind and doing something unusual. If something happens to throttle your progress, well "it just wasn't meant to be." But who gets to decide what or was not 'meant' to be? Does that mean you give up on your dreams because shit happens? And on the flip, all your hard work pays off! The credit just goes to some universal being, God or otherwise, for making it happen?
Some things are certainly out of our control. You do all you can and your future lies in someone else's hands. I think that fate can play a part in some aspects of life but it takes work to make it go any further. So many times people just want things to fall in their lap. No work involved...no effort. And when it doesn't, well 'fate' just gave them a excuse to be lazy. Take control of your own destiny. Stop relying on some universal magic fairy dust to get what you want in life.
I promise that Vegas would not have the prophetic declaration of having the man in the story win. It doesn't match their business plan. Which means this 'fate' thing would have to play one against another. He won the bet. But as we all should know about conception, there is still no guarantee. I wish the best to them and hope they get what they wish for - children are amazing additions to the world. But if, God forbid, their one shot doesn't work, was it not meant to be after all? Everything in life is a gamble. Risks are inherent in our nature. Just be prepared for the consequence without pinning it on fate.
C.
Fate: 1. something that unavoidably befalls a person; fortune; lot. 2. the universal principle or ultimate agency by which the order of things is presumably prescribed; the decreed cause of events; time. 3. that which is inevitably predetermined; destiny. 4. a prophetic declaration of what must be.
Some things are certainly out of our control. You do all you can and your future lies in someone else's hands. I think that fate can play a part in some aspects of life but it takes work to make it go any further. So many times people just want things to fall in their lap. No work involved...no effort. And when it doesn't, well 'fate' just gave them a excuse to be lazy. Take control of your own destiny. Stop relying on some universal magic fairy dust to get what you want in life.
I promise that Vegas would not have the prophetic declaration of having the man in the story win. It doesn't match their business plan. Which means this 'fate' thing would have to play one against another. He won the bet. But as we all should know about conception, there is still no guarantee. I wish the best to them and hope they get what they wish for - children are amazing additions to the world. But if, God forbid, their one shot doesn't work, was it not meant to be after all? Everything in life is a gamble. Risks are inherent in our nature. Just be prepared for the consequence without pinning it on fate.
C.
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